LONG sad story

anonymous bean · #1 (**permalink**) 05-01-2008, 01:49 PM

I'm feeling really bad for my sister right now she is going through a weird tough time.
This story starts way back when the was in high school she dated this guy for 5 years she even got pregnant with his child they both really wanted the baby but since she was under 18 our parents made her get a abortion. It tore them both up. They were together every day for 5 years untill he just didnt know what he wanted he started seeing someone else but still wanted my sister so for another year they would still talk and see each other and he couldnt stand to hear she was seeing someone he would ask
" Your not getting serious are you" to that she would say "no".
She keeped telling him he needed to make up his mind what he wanted if they were ever going to get married he had to grow up and finaly decide already.
Well she started to go on with her life ( the back and forth with him was breaking her heart.) and she got married. Well she would see his mom or dad and ask how things were and such ( The family loved my sister and they wanted them to stay together and get married...Thats what my sister wanted too.) she would get bits and pieces but being that she was now married it was weird to ask.

Now here is the really sad part I just saw in the paper the other day that he had died a year ago. No one knew this and it was a shock even though it has been years he was a BIG part of her life I mean she thought they were going to marry. She was floored by the news and feels bad she didnt know and didnt get to sent her condolences or get to grieve. Turns out other friends of hers and his didnt find out till now ether. She found out today what happened he passed away from Lou gehrigs disease and he was really bad the last two years. He was diagnosed at age 40 he died at age 43.

It is a sad situation I have been talking with her about it and it seams to help her. Her husband seams to understand so thats been good ( he knew all about him and there history she told him about it before they got married.).

It's just so sad to me. I was to young to help her and give her advice back then. I wish I could have helped then..:(
But I'm doing my best now.

Thanks for listening to my story......

CrazyInLove0413 · #2 (**permalink**) 05-01-2008, 04:31 PM

Wow, that is so sad. I hope that your sister is able to find peace now.

PetuniasMum · #3 (**permalink**) 05-02-2008, 11:30 AM

NicoleT · #4 (**permalink**) 05-03-2008, 12:30 PM

charisma · #5 (**permalink**) 05-03-2008, 03:44 PM

That is a very sad story.

to your sister.

cimechang · #6 (**permalink**) 07-24-2008, 06:07 PM

My condolences to your sister

I was in a similar situation. It was a friend not an ex-lover though who concealed his sickness and then eventually passed with only his immediate family knowing. At first I was angry because he was so young and he didn't tell any of his friends, close or not, and always played it out like he was fine around us when he really wasn't but then again, thinking back, that's the kind of person he was, not ever wanting to let people worry about him. What I learned from that experience though was that everything happens for a reason. In the end I'm glad he finally didn't have to suffer anymore, I KNOW he is in a better place now and it's not the end, we will see eachother other again because when friendships/relationships are strong they will always trascend lifetimes. Good luck to your sister, she seems like a strong woman so I know she'll get through this. You seem like an awesome sister too, to worry and care so much about her and yes, listening is the best help you could offer her in a time of grieving. Take care and we here at the littlebean site will always be here to listen if ever you need our ears.