[anonymous bean]

I've been a member of another TTC/preggo board for about two years now. I have seen many, many women that were on their TTC journey get their BFPs while I continued to hope for mine month after month after month. When I -finally-got my BFP I was excited to share it with those girls that had been on the journey with me but understood the pain of watching yet another person get their BFP while they continued on w/o a bean growing in their belly.

Lately, it seems there is so much bitterness and even resentment from certain ladies on this other board towards all of the preggos, myself included. It's getting to the point now where I feel weird visiting the TTC topics even though many TTC ladies ask for help or insight from the BTDT mommies. Up until now I have continued to visit certain topics because, since my TTC journey was a long and bumpy one, I have a lot of knowldge & experience and share it when asked with the hope of helping another girl conceive.

Some of these bitter TTC mommies I know fairly well because I went through a year of TTC right along with them. There are times that I've wanted to say to them "The preggo mommies don't come over here to rub your faces in our pregnancies but instead with the hopes of giving someone information or advice that will help them to conceive. I know the pain of TTC and seeing the ladies all around you get their BFPs while you struggle with the pain of yet another month with a BFN. I was there right along with you not too long ago, remember? I don't know why we conceived but you didn't, however I pray for you everyday and hope that your BFP is just around the corner."

There's also a part of me that struggles with the thought of hiding my signature/ticker when I visit a TTC topic just to be more considerate to those still TTC, but there's a part of me that feels I shouldn't have to. I do hide my siggie with my pics and ticker in it when I visit a topic regarding pregnancy loss.

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